My Sister Candy

By Joe Colitti III (guest writer)

Everyone remembers her for her love of books, literary genius, culinary arts and her constant pursuit of lively debate about economic policy.

This March 9th, celebrating my sisters birthday without her, will be very difficult. As winter turns to Spring, I know that Candy’s birthday is upon us, the only Colitti with a Winter/Spring birthday.

For me, her love of sports was what made our relationship even closer. Spring meant the Masters was just around the corner. Soon Tiger (NOT Phil or Bryson) would be teeing it up and nothing in sport excited Candy more than that. The Yankees (NOT the Red Sox) were looking good in Florida, getting ready for another possible championship season. The 49ers & NY Football Giants (NOT the Patriots) were preparing teams through free agency and the draft for the upcoming season.

Candy was always a proud fan of Dad’s favorite teams, making sure I knew it whenever one of her teams beat mine. Usually through provocative texts or emails linking my team to negative stories or scandals (she was usually spot on).

March 9th is upon us once again and my thoughts are with Candy, wherever she is. I am hoping she is celebrating her birthday with her favorite book, devouring a giant lobster with little necks as her starter and a beautiful Pinot Gris. I will miss the banter of sport with her, yet memories of exactly that will keep a smile on my face as the boys tee it up once again

I love and miss you my sister — forever Candy (NOT Carol) — with all of my heart.

The Mom I Know

By Ben Levine (guest writer)

Many of you knew her as Carol. Those in the family or who met her before 1969 knew her — inexplicably — as Candy (a childhood nickname she had an enduring love/hate relationship with). But I’m the only person on earth lucky enough to know her as mom.

This post has nothing to do with the fact she died a few days ago on November 8. This post is about the fact that for 69 incredible years, she lived.

Mom grew up the oldest of five kids in a household that must have seemed frustratingly idyllic. In the 1950s and 60s, the world around her home was in massive upheaval, and the world inside of it was often just as complex. As the oldest, mom carried a huge emotional burden and significant responsibility from a very young age. This backdrop generated a resilience and courage that became cornerstones of who she was. Mom usually talked openly about the challenges in her life, but only in the context of the great things that came from them. She was a firm believer that “everything happens for a reason” and her own unique conception of karma.

And so, mom’s need to sometimes escape the challenges of her childhood home led to a young life filled with stories that seem plucked from what the coolest version of a 60s childhood might look like. Taking the train from Norman Rockwell’s western Massachusetts to Penn Station in New York with her dad on trips to buy for his New England men’s clothing stores. Sometimes they would take a TWA prop into Idlewild Airport (now JFK) from Bradley field. White tablecloths. China and silver. Dressing up in her best clothes. Sardi’s for dinner. The Copacabana to watch Sammy Davis and others perform late into the night.

In the summer of 1966, at 16 years old, she lived with her Uncle Brother (don’t ask) while he and his family were living in Wiesbaden, Germany. Weekends in Paris, tours through Austria and Italy, jaunts to London, visiting East Berlin through Checkpoint Charlie in a bus on her own.

In 1969, as a freshman at Wheaton College (before she transferred to Mount Holyoke), she visited her Uncle Billy in San Francisco. Billy was a lifelong “bachelor” (wink wink) and even my mother couldn’t disclose all of the trouble they got into during that trip. What I do know is that, at some point, mom and a few of Billy’s friends staggered out of a party late at night and thought it would be a good idea to take a joyride in a bulldozer sitting at a construction site across the street. In one of the odd twists of fate that seemed to crop up around mom throughout her life (she often said she was a witch), that construction site became the hospital where she would give birth to me 20 years later.

The mom I know was resilient and courageous. She believed any challenge or tragedy could lead to something good down the road if you lifted your head to look.

Speaking of which, mom’s 20s were a bit of a blur. She graduated from Mount Holyoke, made some…impulsive…romantic decisions and had a short stint as a high school Spanish and French teacher (her dual degrees in college), which she ended up liking and being quite good at. It was always interesting to hear my mom talk about this time. She seemed to look at it as a long bridge between her childhood and the adult she was destined to become. Not as a waste of time or a mistake, but a necessary or even inevitable part of her journey.

And so, just before she turned 30, mom decided she needed a major life and career change and moved to New York City to live with her younger sister Cindy. This is when and where two more cornerstones of mom’s life were placed in rapid succession: her career, and the obnoxiously perfect love story of my mom and dad.

Mom’s career was quintessentially her. She was horrible at math, never studied finance or economics, and yet managed to work her way from a secretary (not politically correct, but her actual title) at a bank to being one of the first female global managing directors at a top international corporate banking and investment firm. She drove real results in terms of major revenue and profit growth in every office and region she ran. She earned the trust of countless captains of industry, government leaders and billionaire investors with her hustle, chutzpah, humor and wit. “I had people for that,” she would often say when I asked how she did it all with relatively little understanding of the actual mechanics of finance. She didn’t need to understand the details, she needed to build relationships, understand motivations and earn trust. It was a lesson she always tried to teach me, usually with at least a few stories to hammer the point home. Like a time the CEO of a major petrochemical company, who happened to also be a very powerful Mormon, secretly slipped her a bottle of her favorite Bombay gin (scandalous contraband) while she was staying at his ski chalet in Utah.

I remember taking out mom’s rolodex when I was about 12 years old and quizzing her on the random names I came across. She could tell me — almost without fail — each person’s role, details about their family, and one or two stories about time they spent together. Not just CEOs and CFOs, but back office team members, executive assistants, drivers. “Everyone matters, everyone has a story,” she always said.

The mom I know was brilliant and scrappy. She had an uncanny ability to accept and quickly put aside her weaknesses and play to her strengths flawlessly.

Which brings us to my dad, Dr. Gary Levine. I would say the love between him and mom is the stuff of romantic comedies or idyllic love stories. But mom hated romantic comedies and idyllic love stories. So, instead, I’ll say how lucky they were to find one another, how deep their love and respect were (and continue to be), and how the relationship they had is now a White Whale I have the pleasure of chasing for the rest of my life. Therapy bills coming soon, dad!

During the summer of 1981, mom and her sister Cindy went to see Tosca at Shakespeare in the Park while they were still living together on the Upper West Side. They randomly ran into mom’s old college roommate who insisted on setting mom up with her friend, Gary. After a few initial phone calls that went long into the night, mom and dad decided to meet for what was ultimately a blind date. Mom went downtown to meet my dad at his Greenwich Avenue apartment. As my dad tells it, he had already started to fall in love with her brilliance and irreverence during their phone conversations. But when he opened the door and saw how beautiful she was — how she beamed energy into every corner of a room — he knew immediately. Within six months, mom moved out of the apartment she shared with Cindy and moved in with dad. They got married a few months later in 1982, and they fell further in love every day since then. I’m not kidding. Mom would’ve denied it only because it sounds sappy, not because it’s untrue.

The mom I know was loved. The people in her life loved her immensely and unconditionally because she earned it by being exactly who she was.

Which brings us to me. A scandalous encounter between my parents allegedly on a beach in St. Barths led to a bit of a “surprise” nine months later. Whenever mom or dad would reference “that beach in St. Barths” I’d immediately leave the room. But I digress.

Despite the surprise, mom turned out to be the best mother a kid could ask for. Mom and I had a beautifully simple relationship. It was pure, boundless, unconditional love. We understood one another implicitly. That’s not to say she held back (at all) when she thought I was making a bad decision or being lazy or doing anything that wasn’t adding up to the person she knew I could be. And her expectations were high. Very high. But her devotion to me was unending. Mom was a fair and direct critic, a constant coach and mentor, and boisterously my biggest fan in the world (although she probably shares that title with my dad). 

The mom I know was perfect. I owe her more than I’ll ever realize, and she would constantly tell me I owed her nothing. Her focus was never on herself, but squarely on my happiness and success. And I will love her forever because of it.

So. I will miss mom every day for the rest of my life and so will everyone who had the privilege of knowing her. But as I start to lift my head up, what I begin to see and feel more and more is not what I miss, but everything she still is. She is in the way I think, my turns of phrase, my mannerisms, my humor, my accomplishments. She is in my dad’s boundless love for me and the love I continue to feel from her. She is in my large, loud family’s laughter. She is in the stories that will continue to be told about her. She is indelible. She will always be here. And I am so lucky for that.

Carol Aurore Ann Colitti Levine was an extraordinary person, and will forever be my perfect mom.

Eventful Mix

Some things still happen this year. We celebrated Dr. Husband’s 72nd. Even though he cooked us a fabulous veal chop with vidalia onion fig sauce, french beans and garlic roasted potatoes dinner.

We did get him a Magnolia Bakery cake. And mAdBen had Tommy Chong personally wish him a Happy Birthday.


But. No Marathon last Sunday. Nor fireworks. Foil capes. Families running over West 74th toward CPW to congratulate.


We still get to vote today. Semi-normal.

Folly Age

Nothing is as it seems. What’s wrong with this photo? It shows bright Fall Foliage. Not this year. Cars parked along Central Park West. Not this year. It’s now a bike lane. I’m outside. Not this year. The bleachers for the Macy’s Parade. Not this year. No bleachers. No parade.

Trick or Treating. Not this year. Skippy Hallow. For real. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. But. Not for this reason. Thanksgiving travel. Not this year. Discouraged today by Mayor De Blasio with Fauci et al.

Faulty election pollsters. Not this year. They are probably right. Right?

Toujours Maman

Lure Fishbar in Soho. What a difference almost a year makes. Can’t wait for a real hug again. Restaurants, too. Until then. Always happy to be mAd Ben’s mother.

A masked embrace. Tailgate cocktails on the caranda. Creative fun.




Et. Merci pour les jolies fleurs mon fils.

Divine Night 2019

Susana Phillips. Met Opera soprano. O Nuit Divine. Indeed it was. Paul Winter’s sax. Hark the Herald Angels Sing! Silent Night. Candles. Holy Night. Christmas Eve Midnight Mass. Cathedral of St. John the Divine.

Mom & Ben tradition. Joyeux Noël




Autumnal March

A lot can happen when you leave the City for a few days. Scaffolding gets erected. More of it everywhere every day. Leaves become etched with tinges of yellow. And on September 18th, the Upper West Side lost an independent 94-year old woman of substance. One who even wrote her own obit, “She was a Bronze Life Master in bridge, an avid reader and an incredibly talented writer… those who knew her loved her, those who didn’t missed out.”   True.  Adieu, Betsey Strahl Levine.

Elsewhere. Kids are let out of school to raise awareness and motivate action on Climate Change. As people gather in Nevada to investigate what really goes on at Area 51. Art Bell will surely be found there.

Yes. Life marches on. But the world will never be quite the same.

Lobster Day Weekend

End of summer traditions. Steamers & lobster & corn-on-the-cob. Just a Metro North train away. Fabulous backyard clam bake.

On Center Court. Osaka showed heart & class. If not game in the end. #McCoco doubles team regained youthful glee. Djok choked. And. Sorry Serena. But. That outfit was just purple rain.

Over at HBO. Logan coddles a fragile Kendall. Roman goes to management training. Shiv shakes her head as Holly & Cherry join the fray.  But hey. Always intriguing new acquisitions at RoyCo.

‘Twas a bon weekend.